How I've Been Transcending Jealousy

And how you can too!

The people you’re jealous of are not gods but fellow insecure humans.

A month ago, I hung out with a blogger with thousands of subscribers who I was jealous of. Initially, I felt awkward talking to her, especially since I’ve spent way more brain space than I care to admit thinking about her! The more we talked, however, the more I was able to see how genuine and kind she was, so I started opening up.

At one point, she asked me, “So how do you approach getting to know fellow bloggers and getting subscribers? I feel scared thinking about that.”

This blogger — who I was so jealous of for being way farther along the track than I was — was asking me, a lowbie with < 700 subscribers at the time, about my tips to grow! Maybe, just maybe, all the images I conjured of her having her life completely figured out and all the thoughts I had about her being a more worthy human than me were not based in reality!

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I’ve been plagued by jealousy my whole life and struggle to deal with both the emotion itself and with the shame I feel around it. The past few months, I’ve made headway on navigating this emotion, rather than letting it run my entire life. I’ve interacted with people I’m jealous of, confronted my insecurities head on, and lived to tell the tale. Here’s what I’ve learned, as well as concrete steps that have helped me tame my jealousy: